The anecdotes of Emperor Akbar and his trusted aide Birbal are entertaining as well as enlightening.
Once, the Emperor received the gift of a rare perfume. As he opened the bottle, a drop of perfume fell to the floor.
Akbar instinctively moved to retrieve it by wiping the floor with his finger. As he looked up he noticed a bemused look on Birbal’s face… his eyes seemed to mock the Emperor for being scrounging.
To change Birbal’s perception, Akbar summoned him the next morning to his bath. He asked his attendants to fill up the bathtub with the best of perfumes.
Akbar sought to show Birbal that as Emperor he could afford to waste as much perfume, as he wanted. Birbal when asked to react said the immortal lines, “Boond se jati, woh haudh se nahi aati” (An entire tub full cannot retrieve what the drop took way!)
Birbal sought to tell the Emperor that his earlier instinctive action (that exhibited miserliness) could not be undone by an intentional action (aimed at big-heartedness).
Our character is determined by our reactions, not by forced posturing. It is better to be transparent then wear favourable masks.
In fact every little action and reaction, every spoken word and emerging thought reflects our true self!